9:41 pm 5 November 2020 Jose Fernandez
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Helping
one of my own children overcome anxiety was one of the reason I decided
to begin teaching others how to teach and learn mindfulness.
My
fifth child was delivered via caesarean. After over 10 hours of labour I
was rushed into an emergency caesarean due to complications. When he
was born he was left with his father for hours, while I was in recovery.
And I was told later, that no one could comfort him. So, his entry into
this world was followed by hours of uncontrollable crying and stress.
This triggered strong anxiety within him, that would last for another 5
or so years.
When we finally met he clung to me like a little
koala. If fact, I nick named him Koaly. He literally spent most of this
time attached to me in a baby joborn. Even when I was reading or working
around the house, he was attached, which really helped him feel secure,
content and happy. And he was a very happy baby, always smiling and
laughing…as long as I was right there. But, still his anxiety would get
the better of him at times. And sadly, the little darling suffered from
hallucinations whenever he had a high fever (under the influence of the
drug Nurofen) and would literally see scary figures and experience walls
moving and unfortunately we didn’t know this was happening until he was
old enough to speak. Fortunately, he wasn’t sick too often and he
rarely allowed us to administer drugs to control his fever. By age three
he never took Nurofen again!
Even almost 3 years of breast
feeding and having him always with me, didn’t relieve him of his
anxiety. As he grew, I noticed he was very shy around others and would
become anxious quiet easily. So when he was ready to start school at age
5, I enrolled him in the local Montessori school, just to ensure his
social and emotional development was going to continue to be developed
in a nurturing environment. It was wonderful to be able to only need to
leave him for 3 hours a day, until he was ready to stay longer.
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